Monday, December 20, 2010

Happy Birthday, Jesus!

 If Jesus was still on Earth... He would be somewhere around 2,000 years old!  Instead of focusing on His age... I'm thinking He would probably want us to spend his birthday in other ways.  :-)  Knowing Jesus... I'm thinking that He would want us to celebrate his birth like this:

1 The Spirit of the Sovereign LORD is on me,
   because the LORD has anointed me
   to proclaim good news to the poor.
He has sent me to bind up the brokenhearted,
   to proclaim freedom for the captives
   and release the prisoners from darkness,[a]

2 to proclaim the year of the LORD’s favor
   and the day of vengeance of our God,
to comfort all who mourn....


Isaiah 61: 1-2

I love these verses!  How can we serve and give more to others this holiday season?  How can we give to the poor, comfort all who mourn, and be Jesus' hands and feet as a way of celebrating His glorious life?  Just some food for thought on this beautiful Monday.  Merry Christmas week, everyone!

Thursday, December 16, 2010

SEX! Post # 2


The first post I wrote about sex had to do with changing the way we look at sex in the marriage relationship. This post has to do with numerous discussions I've had about sex with married Christian women in the past few years. I'm feeling like there is a disconnect between what God wants for sex in marriage, and what is actually happening in the bedroom. For whatever reason, it seems to me that many Christian women are having trouble differentiating between what Godly women are supposed to be, and how to be sensuous with their husbands.

I'm reading a book right now called Intimate Issues by Linda Dillow and Lorraine Pintus that I would recommend to any Christian bride who is looking for answers about sex from a Godly perspective. I would like to share some of the verses that this book has brought to my attention in regards to how God views sex.

God gave us the gift of sex for the following reasons:

1) To create life
2) For intimate oneness
4) For pleasure
5) As a defense against temptation
6) For comfort

In a little more detail.....

God Gave us Sex so We Can Create Life
God created Adam from the dust of the Earth, and then created Eve from Adam's rib. He could have continued to create man and woman in this same way, but he chose not to. In Genesis 1:28, God makes the command to "be fruitful and multiply, and fill the earth." In other words, God could have created the people of this world in a million different ways, but instead, he gave us the gift of sex as a way of creating a child. And I doubt God had to explain to Adam and Eve how to create a child together. Our creative and amazing God crafted our bodies perfectly to fit together in a unique way. I sure wish I could have a cup of coffee with Eve today so she could describe to me her amazement of what her and Adam discovered together!

God Gave us Sex for Intimate Oneness
Genesis 2:24 says that "A man shall leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave to his wife; and they shall become one flesh." This is truly a beautiful thought. Instead of being separate beings, God wants us to be so woven, bonded, and intimately connected with our spouse, that we would be seen by God as one rather than two.

God Gave us Sex for Pleasure
Pleasure is a dimension of sex that God talks about quite a bit. In fact, anyone who has read the Song of Solomon knows that God devoted an entire book of the Bible to sexual pleasure in marriage! Other passages speak about sexual pleasure as well. Proverbs 5:15, 18-19 says, "Drink from your own well, my son--be faithful and true to your wife. ... Let your manhood be a blessing; rejoice in the wife of your youth. Let her charms and tender embrace satisfy you. Let her love alone fill you with delight." There is a beautiful parallel drawn here between quenching thirst by cool, fresh water, and a couple's sexual thirst and desire for one another. From the perspective of Linda Dillow, this verse is saying to let a sexual embrace with your husband or wife intoxicate you continually with delight and to fully enjoy the ecstasy of love. Enjoy your spouse. Give to him, receive from him, and delight yourself in the erotic feelings of sexual love.

God Gave us Sex as a Defense Against Temptation
Sex can be a powerful weapon used for good or evil. To make sure that it is used for good, God gave us boundaries to prevent us from the harm that sex can cause. Sexual lust is obviously a big problem in our world today. Proverbs 5 warns about sexual lust: "Drink water from your own cistern, and fresh water from your own well" (verse 15). It then references the wife in regards to helping defer against sexual temptation.

18 May your fountain be blessed,
and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth.
19 A loving doe, a graceful deer—
may her breasts satisfy you always,
may you ever be intoxicated with her love.

The following passage also makes it clear that sex in marriage can be used as a deterrent to sexual temptation.

1 Corinthians 7: 2,5
"But because of immoralities, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband... Stop depriving one another, except by agreement for a time that you may devote yourselves to prayer, and come together again lest Satan tempt you because of your lack of self-control."

God Gave us Sex for Comfort

In 2 Samuel 12:24, after David and Bathsheba's son had died, the Bible says that "David comforted Bathsheba his wife, and went in to her and lay with her. So she bore a son, and he called his name Solomon." Sometimes, the most effective comfort and encouragement we can give to our spouses is loving them sexually. During hard times, we can help our spouses to relax and release unwanted tension. I've heard numerous stories about sex being used for comfort, but one stands out in my mind. I have a friend who went through depression a number of years ago. She was distant from most everyone, and had trouble experiencing the fullness of life. During this time, the best way for the husband to comfort his wife was through sex. In this way, he was able to love her on a different level. Sometimes words aren't enough. Being able to comfort your husband or wife through sex can be one of the most healing and enriching forms of love.

Even if the world has desecrated God's perfect gift of sex, we can still use it for good in a powerful way. God wants us to be naked with our spouse and to not be ashamed. He wants us to embrace what He created in the right way. God desires us to give and receive exquisite pleasure, and to rejoice in the intimate connectedness that sex can bring. So make it a point to love your spouse on a different level. Try viewing sex from God's perspective instead of what the world is telling you. Sex is a gift from God to be enjoyed... so use it in the way that He created it to be; as a way of drawing you closer to your spouse in intimate oneness, for pleasure and comfort, and as a defense against sexual lust and temptation.

Wednesday, December 15, 2010

Micah Kaplan 2/3/85-12/12/10


A friend of ours passed away on Sunday.  Beloved husband, son, and teacher, Micah Benjamin Kaplan, 25, passed away in a car accident on the 101 on his way home from work.  He was a P.E. teacher at Highland Lakes School and Desert Sage Elementary School, and coached varsity soccer at Sandra Day O'Connor High.  Anyone knew him knew that his passions in life were his wife, people, and sharing the love of Jesus Christ.  Micah was married on May 24th, 2008 to his beautiful wife Susanna.  Together, they started a small group in their home called Agape, where Micah would invite everyone he knew, including his co-workers.  Micah's love for others and for God shone brightly, and he impacted anyone who came across his path.  Micah was very vocal about his love for God and his wife Susanna.  He was a very encouraging person, and loved everyone who came across his path.  He proposed to his wife Susie while she was battling cancer, and continued to love and support her throughout that journey. He was one of those people who put  a million exclamations after everything on facebook..... 

Micah Kaplan Just got home from work....So glad God is blessing me with the ability to work right now. I am so thankful for all of things that are happening. I love my family and my Lord!!!

Micah Kaplan Amazing night with family and my freaking AWESOME WIFE! Great day :)

My Amazing Wife is Graduating tonight! Way to go Susanna Kaplan!!! I love you so much! What an amazing accomplishment!! YOU ARE ONE HOT NURSE!!!!!!

Micah Kaplan There will never be another October 20th, 2010 ever again. Live it up today. Let His light shine!!!!! Today is gonna be AWESOME!!!!!!!

Micah Kaplan There is Victory in Him, which makes me the Victor and no longer the loser!!!!

Micah Kaplan My Amazing, beautiful wife Susie Marie Kaplan finished Nursing school tonight!!! There have been so many obstacles she has had to overcome while in school including Cancer. But by the Grace, Strength, and Joy of the Lord she did it! Not only did she pass school, SHE DOMINATED IT! Susie I am so proud of you. YOU AR...E TRULY AN OVERCOMER AND A CHAMPION IN EVERY WAY! CONGRATULATIONS NURSE SUSIE!!!!!!!

Micah Kaplan AGAPE is tonight!!!! Come and join us as we eat and fellowship together. There is no better place to be than in the midst of Him!!!!!! SO PUMPED!!!!

Micah Kaplan There is a great man who makes every man feel small. But the real great man is the man who makes every man feel great. -- G. K. Chesterton

All of this to say, this is a huge wake up call.  Micah and Susie are the same age as Scott and I.  We got married around the same time, live down the street from them, and would meet them up at the dog park for their golden retriever Buddy to play with Sam and Sadie.  I felt like it could have been Scott in that car accident, and I just don't know what I would do without my husband.  My heart aches for Susie and for all she has and is going through.

And with this, I want to make it a point to live life to the fullest.  If something were to happen to me, I would want people to say about me what people are saying about Micah.  I want to radiate the love of Jesus to anyone that comes across my path and always be positive despite my circumstances.  I want to reach out to others, and spend my days making every moment count.  I don't want to worry about petty things, and I want to suck every second out of every day making a difference in the lives of those around me.  

Thank you, Micah, for making a difference in this world.  Thank you for loving God and others the way that you did, and for being an amazing living testimony for Him.  You lived your life well, and you are admired, loved, and missed by many.

Micah and Susie were struggling financially as Susie still has financial bills from her battle with cancer, and now student loans as Micah was working two jobs to put her through nursing school.  If God lays it on your heart, please consider making a donation.

Information and donations and more on the life of Micah Kaplan is available at http://ilovemicahkaplan.blogspot.com/.